Fertility Counseling

As a fertility consultant, systemic coach and alternative practitioner for psychotherapy, I also accompany people from English-speaking countries (e.g. expats, couples or singles who moved to Germany etc.) through the period of wanting to have children. I myself spent 5 years on the fertility roller coaster - primarily in the USA. I also worked for Resolve, an organization to help families who want children and find it difficult to achieve their dreams. I know how it feels to be in a foreign country and go through infertility issues. Even when my English was very good, there are language barriers and cultural barriers that cannot be overcome.

 

If we want a child and this wish cannot be fulfilled or is very difficult to fulfill, it can affect our entire life. The pain can get so severe that it completely paralyzes those affected. Anyone who has not experienced it themselves finds it difficult to understand and feel the deep emotional crisis the situation can trigger. “Why me?”, “What am I doing wrong?”, “Why can’t I do the most natural thing in the world?” are questions that those affected revolve around. Feelings of shame, guilt, envy and anger towards ourselves and others who can apparently have children so easily are stressful. Many sufferers feel alone with their pain.

 

This becomes particularly stressful when we are not in our home country, but abroad, where most of us do not speak in our mother tongue, are not aware of the cultural peculiarities and do not know how "things work". I personally did go through this process for 5 years when I was living in the US with my partner and we had an unfulfilled desire to have a child. It was a very stressful and long journey and I wished I would have had someone next to me  supporting me both emotionally and psychologically and related to making suitable well-founded decisions and helping me navigate in this foreign world and culture.

 

Today it is a matter close to my heart to be exactly this navigator and supporter to individuals and families from abroad who are going through infertility in Germany.